Emotional journey as a first time dad

I think we have to start from the beginning. The announcement came more or less as a surprise. I and my wife had not put so much mind into it, it was more like. If a baby comes it comes. So my chock answer to the announcement was, who is your secret boyfriend?

You probably heard people say that a baby gives you extra power and I 100% agree with that. The amount I could work during the pregnancy was on another level. That we needed money and a grumpy wife at home, can have a small role in that too...

I don't wanna go into the bloody details of the birth, but he came the natural way... (BTW.. It's a lot of health benefits with that).

Now when that's over, we can start to talk about the love that filled the room when I held my son for the first time. It's hard to describe but I have to admit that I was crying out of joy.

A piece of you is now out in the world and you have now a real understanding of what it means to care about something more than yourself.

The first months are tough because you don't know where you gonna fall asleep and when. Knowing that this moment is not forever, will keep you going. Don't worry, everything is not that bad. There is nothing cuter than a baby that goes from crawling to walking.

I can see that many kids are very fond of their mother (especially if they spend a lot of time together or breastfeeding). This is the reality in my family too and it's so easy to give away the responsibility to my wife. But it's here I believe the father has to step up. So make sure you get some alone time with your child without the mother.

It's not our children's responsibility to love us. It's our responsibility to love them, no matter what.

What you have to sacrifice

I think this can be very different from family to family. So questions like do we have enough support, money, and am I able to change some of my habits for someone else? Can I have 10,000 dinners with my partner?.  These are good questions to ask yourself before you enter parenthood.

Some of my habits have changed and I have to plan my time more mindfully, but I believe, you can have it all. If you have the mindset of I can have it all, then it's just a matter of time before you have figured out the solution.

"The new me is a better me and I would not change it for anything else".